Not Wanting to go home

sprinterguy · 30 Dec 2015

HMS Ark Royal said:
If you want a good and almost certain booked 142 turn, get the 1632 from Middlesbrough

Cheers for the advice, but I think by that point we'll be on the beers in Newcastle or, at least, heading in the opposite direction down the Tyne Valley. The pubs are the main event, the train travel between them a happy by-product, and it seems almost inevitable that we'll end up on at least one Pacer at some point.

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backontrack · 30 Dec 2015

sprinterguy said:
Cheers for the advice, but I think by that point we'll be on the beers in Newcastle or, at least, heading in the opposite direction down the Tyne Valley. The pubs are the main event, the train travel between them a happy by-product, and it seems almost inevitable that we'll end up on at least one Pacer at some point.

Yes, head towards Middlesbrough. The probability of ending up on a rickety, vomit-soaked, beer-infused pacer is an absolute certainty, carrying the exotic, delicate fragrance of tinned lager and sweat.

sprinterguy · 30 Dec 2015

backontrack said:
Yes, head towards Middlesbrough. The probability of ending up on a rickety, vomit-soaked, beer-infused pacer is an absolute certainty, carrying the fragrance of tinned lager and sweat.

Good grief, I've got no intention of heading towards Middlesbrough in any meaningful sense; I'm from Sunderland, I've got standards you know!

(Apologies for the egregious thread drift here) :oops:

backontrack · 30 Dec 2015

sprinterguy said:
Good grief, I've got no intention of heading towards Middlesbrough in any meaningful sense; I'm from Sunderland, I've got standards you know!

(Apologies for the egregious thread drift here)

I know, I'm kidding. It's very telling that Middlesbrough's most famous landmark is the bridge away from it. :P

In all seriousness, I'd recommend the Tyne Valley because it's a great scenic line. I for one haven't been there in ages!

trainophile · 30 Dec 2015

RichmondCommu said:
Right lets get something straight here, being a member of a forum is not real life.

HMS Ark Royal said:
Well if you happen to be in the Northern area of operations, let me know and maybe we can meet up...

And before you know it...

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RichmondCommu · 30 Dec 2015

trainophile said:
And before you know it... .

I concur that meeting up away from the forum is indeed "real life" however I don't regard having a conversation on a internet forum as being real life. After all its just the internet.

trainophile · 30 Dec 2015

RichmondCommu said:
I concur that meeting up away from the forum is indeed "real life" however I don't regard having a conversation on a internet forum as being real life. After all its just the internet.

Well it's not make believe :lol:

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RichmondCommu · 30 Dec 2015

trainophile said:
Well it's not make believe .

Well would you discuss things with absolute strangers on the train, Tube, bus, plane that are discussed on here? Would you tell a complete stranger on your commute home that you have not intention of spending Christmas with your family? I know I wouldn't and I don't suppose the OP would and yet its being discussed here on the internet.

Bletchleyite · 30 Dec 2015

RichmondCommu said:
Well would you discuss things with absolute strangers on the train, Tube, bus, plane that are discussed on here? Would you tell a complete stranger on your commute home that you have not intention of spending Christmas with your family? I know I wouldn't and I don't suppose the OP would and yet its being discussed here on the internet.

This is, I suppose, a bit more like a single-interest pub full of regulars. Yes, it's public to the Internet, but if you use a pseudonym in most cases you can't easily be identified by a casual browser.

trainophile · 30 Dec 2015

RichmondCommu said:
Well would you discuss things with absolute strangers on the train, Tube, bus, plane that are discussed on here? Would you tell a complete stranger on your commute home that you have not intention of spending Christmas with your family? I know I wouldn't and I don't suppose the OP would and yet its being discussed here on the internet.

I have before now struck up a conversation with a total stranger (also female) on a train, and we have chatted about all kinds of things. I don't see the problem.

I know it's a cliché, but some of my best friends (of over ten years) really did start out as internet posters who I didn't know from Adam.

RichmondCommu · 30 Dec 2015

Neil Williams said:
This is, I suppose, a bit more like a single-interest pub full of regulars. Yes, it's public to the Internet, but if you use a pseudonym in most cases you can't easily be identified by a casual browser.

Well exactly.
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trainophile said:
I have before now struck up a conversation with a total stranger (also female) on a train, and we have chatted about all kinds of things. I don't see the problem.

I know it's a cliché, but some of my best friends (of over ten years) really did start out as internet posters who I didn't know from Adam.

Ah look there will always be exceptions but I travel by train five to six days a week and I seldom talk to anyone, or indeed hear other travelers talking to strangers about anything. People tend to keep themselves to themselves on trains rather than disclosing personal information. I'm not suggesting that there is a problem with rabbiting on to a complete stranger on public transport but I wouldn't say its a common occurrence.

And in terms of making friends with people you've chatted to on the internet surely that's no different to internet dating? That is certainly real life but in that case by definition you're having a conversation with the intent of meeting someone. I don't suppose amateur has any intention of meeting up with me for a drink and yet he's happy (as is his choice) to post details of his fractious family life on here.

trainophile · 30 Dec 2015

All my internet friends are married women, same as myself. No "dating" involved at all!

Do you ever look on the Moneysavingexpert forums? Many people's very first post is a plea for advice about some tricky situation they find themselves in. Often the subsequent thread runs to dozens of pages. Very often their dilemma has nothing to do with money saving!

I'm not sure that is a parallel, but I still don't find it odd that someone should bare their soul on an internet forum to anonymous readers.

Have we frightened amateur away?

RichmondCommu · 30 Dec 2015

trainophile said:
All my internet friends are married women, same as myself. No "dating" involved at all!

Do you ever look on the Moneysavingexpert forums? Many people's very first post is a plea for advice about some tricky situation they find themselves in. Often the subsequent thread runs to dozens of pages. Very often their dilemma has nothing to do with money saving!

I'm not sure that is a parallel, but I still don't find it odd that someone should bare their soul on an internet forum to anonymous readers.

Have we frightened amateur away?

Yes I subscribe to Martin Lewis's website but other than an issue with a parking fine I've not used the forums. However if say you were seeking advice on a PPI claim I don't think you'd discuss it / ask for advice from a complete stranger on public transport.

As for amateur, hopefully he saw sense and headed off to see his family. I do wonder whether he might have been intoxicated when he started this thread.

carriageline · 30 Dec 2015

I think people should be careful what they wish for.

Over more recent years, I never got the time to go see a certain family member around Christmas very often, through maybe laziness or selfishness, I don't know why I didn't.

Now that family member has sadly departed, I wished so hard that they could of been round the table at Christmas.

Family are one of the most important things we have, don't take them for granted.

RichmondCommu · 30 Dec 2015

carriageline said:
I think people should be careful what they wish for.

Over more recent years, I never got the time to go see a certain family member around Christmas very often, through maybe laziness or selfishness, I don't know why I didn't.

Now that family member has sadly departed, I wished so hard that they could of been round the table at Christmas.

Family are one of the most important things we have, don't take them for granted.

You are spot on! I live in SW London and my parents live in the Midlands. My Dad is 71 and my Mum 68. Whenever I see them I hug them more tightly than ever because I know that they won't be here forever. I would never turn down the opportunity to see them because I'll be heart broken when its time for my siblings and I to bury them.

fowler9 · 31 Dec 2015

RichmondCommu said:
You are spot on! I live in SW London and my parents live in the Midlands. My Dad is 71 and my Mum 68. Whenever I see them I hug them more tightly than ever because I know that they won't be here forever. I would never turn down the opportunity to see them because I'll be heart broken when its time for my siblings and I to bury them.

However we do not know the OP's relationship with his or her family, and as I already mentioned I think I know many people who have no love lost when it comes to having no contact with their family. There will be some who broke off contact and will live to regret it. As none of us really know each others situation none of us can tell the OP with any certainty that they should have in fact made the effort to see the parts of the family in question.

carriageline · 31 Dec 2015

I do agree. But I know people who had a completely foul relationship with their parents, and now their parents have gone, they wish they could of made things right. You never know when a goodbye may be the last.

amateur · 31 Dec 2015

trainophile said:
All my internet friends are married women, same as myself. No "dating" involved at all!

Do you ever look on the Moneysavingexpert forums? Many people's very first post is a plea for advice about some tricky situation they find themselves in. Often the subsequent thread runs to dozens of pages. Very often their dilemma has nothing to do with money saving!

I'm not sure that is a parallel, but I still don't find it odd that someone should bare their soul on an internet forum to anonymous readers.

Have we frightened amateur away?

You haven't scared amateur away. Just for clarity my parents never abused me, or neglected me as a child. If I had one word to describe my dad, that would be "frugal".

To put things into context, I do have a diagnosis of autism (subjective). The literal definition of autism is "the self"; I don't know whether that makes any difference.

Bletchleyite · 31 Dec 2015

amateur said:
To put things into context, I do have a diagnosis of autism (subjective). The literal definition of autism is "the self"; I don't know whether that makes any difference.

It might do. Certainly many autistic people don't like being around others.

trainophile · 31 Dec 2015

Absolutely. From the little I know of autism and being "on the spectrum" I can totally understand why you would not relish spending several days with a group of people, even family, and nothing much to do.

Thanks for coming back in, good to know you are okay.

scott118 · 31 Dec 2015

trainophile said:
Thanks for coming back in, good to know you are okay.

at least we know his name isn't George Foley...

radamfi · 3 Jan 2016

RichmondCommu said:
So are you therefore suggesting that the world would be a better place without the OP, or for that matter yourself. That we would all be better off if the two of you hadn't been conceived?

The new year is only 2 and a bit days old and looking at my Facebook feed we already have horrible things happening to people in 2016. Life is not all roses even in 2016. Blame the parents, I say.

Chapeltom · 4 Jan 2016

On the subject of family and Christmas, I've not been a big fan of Christmas since I was 14/15 and I'm not exactly that sociable, I'm Aspergers but found it hard over the Christmas period. It made me realise, how lucky those are, who live near their parents or with them.

I live a small matter of 6000 miles from home and 90% of the time, I cope with being so far from home. I work Monday to Friday but had Christmas Day/New Years Day off but was very happy to get back to work today. Definitely felt a bit homesick over the Christmas period, made me grouchy and a bit depressed really. Not a great time of year when your on own, friends are only so much use.

We all have different opinions on Christmas, relationships with family etc though.

al78 · 6 Jan 2016

RichmondCommu said:
Right lets get something straight here, being a member of a forum is not real life.

Incorrect. Posts on forums are (in general) made by real people using a real computer or some similar digital device. Communicating on forums is very much interacting with real people. The fact that you are hiding behind anonymity makes no difference, some people like to use that as an excuse to throw away any concept of social etiquette.

fowler9 · 7 Jan 2016

al78 said:
Incorrect. Posts on forums are (in general) made by real people using a real computer or some similar digital device. Communicating on forums is very much interacting with real people. The fact that you are hiding behind anonymity makes no difference, some people like to use that as an excuse to throw away any concept of social etiquette.

Indeed, some people will tell the truth, some will not. Very much like real life.

yorksrob · 7 Jan 2016

It's been less than a week back at work and already I wish it was xmas again :lol:

sprinterguy · 8 Jan 2016

yorksrob said:
It's been less than a week back at work and already I wish it was xmas again

Oh good grief no

: I'm relieved to be able to get back to my usual, healthy diet of ale and pies again, rather than gorging myself on all that turkey and chocolate that the festive season brings with it!

yorksrob · 8 Jan 2016

sprinterguy said:
Oh good grief no : I'm relieved to be able to get back to my usual, healthy diet of ale and pies again, rather than gorging myself on all that turkey and chocolate that the festive season brings with it!

I think I could just about live with the ale and pies :lol:

amateur · 22 Jan 2016

burned bridges with one sibling. blocked from all means of communication and no longer talking! :eek:

SS4 · 22 Jan 2016

amateur said:
burned bridges with one sibling. blocked from all means of communication and no longer talking! :eek:

All that over not going home for Christmas? If that's the case you're better off without contact.

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