The EU is not to blame either because the EU were never going to negotiate properly and seriously with the UK Government when there is no pressure to do so, the continued actions of politicians to force that narrative, continue to extend the deadline, and remove No Deal off the table has seen to that
The EU have negotiated properly and seriously though. They have at all times stood as one, with clear lines about what can and can't be negotiated, and respected the lines that we have drawn.
The fact that our PM drew those lines with no consultation with parliament about what they would actually vote for, and then took us to an election which reduced the number of MPs she could get to vote for her idea, and then upset most of them by ignoring them and proposing and agreeing a universally unpopular deal is not the fault of the EU.
If we had been more flexible, the EU would have been more flexible. Demanding a deal or we'll shoot ourselves is not going to pressure the EU into submission.
Too many people are treating this as some sort of war now - we have to be victorious against the EU or we'll lose face. The fact that a victory would be us coming to a mutually acceptable agreement, not running away with our tails between our legs carrying our ball home appears to be lost on the rabid beleavers.