Well that depends on who you know
It doesn’t matter if you know the King of England himself. I guarantee Thameslink won’t be telling their drivers to brake later for stations. They don’t need to add to their driver shortage by making more of them unproductive.
But that is a valid point, how often are drivers picked up for minor time loss with no obvious reason? Not in a bad way, but spoken to in an encouraging manner to use the capabilities of the rolling stock, in a safe way.
You might be asked “Why did you lose time here”, but “driving to conditions” will be the answer that goes in if you can’t remember. Most of the “official” reasons are disseminated via NR so, at least in my experience, I tend not to be asked.
One thing you’re not generally encouraged to do is lean on the brakes etc. I agree it can lead to some pretty windy driving, but that’s a product of how risk averse we are these days as an industry. Unfortunately the other side of that is people braking late, slipping through stations, or forgetting to stop entirely, which also happens with monotonous regularity.
I look at it the other way around.
If I'm running to time, I know there's places where I can coast for much longer distances, often well below linespeed, without being late at any intermediate timing point. Approaching Manchester (from either side, but especially from the east with generally falling gradients for miles after miles) is probably the best example, with a decent chunk of engineering allowance to play with. Might as well brake earlier and lighter too, for the same reason.
So, when I'm running late, I *am* driving differently. Not braking late, just braking *later* than I would if I had that extra time to play with. Normal braking instead of really relaxed braking. Although I'm not averse to pushing it a bit further if I'm confident that it's a good rail and good brakes (but still with a decent margin for error!). No pressure to do so, just enjoying the challenge somewhat, and keeping my skills sharp too.
Goes to show how we all have slightly different approaches. There are places I coast for a long way as part of normal route knowledge. I wouldn’t say my general approach is that different to yours, based on your description. I don’t drive below the PSR for long periods, though.
To be fair if you've only ever driven a passenger unit, like most drivers, there's probably never been any actual opportunity to run early, not while in regular commercial service anyway, so it's not all that important for standards. The only time I know it definitely came up was when there were lots of SRTs that couldn't be updated to reflect a meaningful distance of just-raised permitted speeds. But there are more occasions with locomotive-hauled sets that the timing load will be well out of whack to the actual set characteristics that show up on the day, so more occasions where wasted fuel would be measurable if consistent early running were observed.
Units and HSTs for me. Certainly no experience of loco hauled, other than (unofficially) on a heritage railway

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That said SRTs and “wasted fuel” figures don’t come up in my experience, certainly at the driver level. Perhaps they do at some of the smaller operators?