Jamesb1974
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As a little boy in 1970s Crawley, I have very few memories, but along with white dog-poo (which was everywhere, but at least you could see it), there were groups of punks "loitering", glue sniffing and graffiti. Swap punks for chavs, and glue for MCat, and we've not got a huge difference 40 years later.
It's full of women, so that's a given. Just as forums populated primarily by males can turn misogynist quickly, the same is true with females and misandry.
The best thread on the forum is arguably the "dunking" one. It's... definitely not safe for work.
As I have said in other forums here, I get more and more reactionary as I get older. I'm afraid we are victims of the PC Brigade. When I was a youngster I was spoken to harshly, or even had the backs of my legs smacked. Parents now are not allowed to do that, so the rest of us have to suffer because of lazy attitude to parents controlling their pesky kids.
This continues throughout childhood and adolescence. From the baby constantly crying or screaming it's head off for at times, hours on end, and the parents just sit there, no idea that the is a problem with the child. The 3-10 year old, who cannot sit still, got to constantly move about, change position and again the parents do nothing, to the teenagers, shouting down their phones, shouting and swearing all over the place.
I try to confront parents. One child constantly swinging her legs under the table and kicking my shins. I ask the parent to get the child to stop. I get the dirty look. She'll stop when she wants. So I loose my cool. If I'm kicked again by your horrid child, then I'll kick you so hard that it'll take three weeks or more for the bruises to go away. I make sure the whole carriage hears me. Thankfully parent and child move away.
To be honest, I don't see why I should not complain. Constant two way conversations of a mobile phone that can be heard all over the carriage including the swearing is not one I and many others have to put up with. I get the reaction that I can always ask then to stop. Why should I have to ask them to stop! Why am I put in the position that I am disturbed and become annoyed?
I'm afraid the PC Brigade has won. I get up and move now, but again why should I have to?
It's worse in planes. You cannot move most the time. I just wish they put families and children in the rear of the plane next to the flight crew, and that children up to the age of 7 are drugged when they get on board.
King Herod had the right idea! Must be good as it's in the Bible.
There have been 'Good' v 'Bad' behaviour threads recently, how about a 'parents who let their children run riot' thread? I'm on 1E19 Aberdeen - Kings Cross and there are a couple of apparently foreign couples letting their kids run the length of the carriage, taking the reservation cards out of the seat backs, stand on the tables, etc.
Very annoying to say the least.
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As I have said in other forums here, I get more and more reactionary as I get older. I'm afraid we are victims of the PC Brigade. When I was a youngster I was spoken to harshly, or even had the backs of my legs smacked. Parents now are not allowed to do that, so the rest of us have to suffer because of lazy attitude to parents controlling their pesky kids.
This continues throughout childhood and adolescence. From the baby constantly crying or screaming it's head off for at times, hours on end, and the parents just sit there, no idea that the is a problem with the child. The 3-10 year old, who cannot sit still, got to constantly move about, change position and again the parents do nothing, to the teenagers, shouting down their phones, shouting and swearing all over the place.
I try to confront parents. One child constantly swinging her legs under the table and kicking my shins. I ask the parent to get the child to stop. I get the dirty look. She'll stop when she wants. So I loose my cool. If I'm kicked again by your horrid child, then I'll kick you so hard that it'll take three weeks or more for the bruises to go away. I make sure the whole carriage hears me. Thankfully parent and child move away.
To be honest, I don't see why I should not complain. Constant two way conversations of a mobile phone that can be heard all over the carriage including the swearing is not one I and many others have to put up with. I get the reaction that I can always ask then to stop. Why should I have to ask them to stop! Why am I put in the position that I am disturbed and become annoyed?
I'm afraid the PC Brigade has won. I get up and move now, but again why should I have to?
It's worse in planes. You cannot move most the time. I just wish they put families and children in the rear of the plane next to the flight crew, and that children up to the age of 7 are drugged when they get on board.
King Herod had the right idea! Must be good as it's in the Bible.
Not once in nearly a decade on this forum have I had the urge to punch a fellow member because of a post.
Congratulations on being the first.
If you find you are constantly agitated and feel the need to confront a parent over their exuberant child, whether they were behaving good or bad, then you should really take yourself to the quiet coach.
I wasn't actually *that* bothered by their behaviour personally as they didn't take an interest in me, but the lady whose table they were climbing onto and jumping off of was obviously quite perturbed, and the other lady whose daughter they were later crowding into a corner seat didn't look much pleased either. And I dare say any people who got onto the train later and found people sitting in their reserved seats probably wouldn't have been very happy either.As an alternative, maybe you'd have preferred that they had been forced to sit on their parents laps and screamed their heads off for the entire journey instead.
I would generally agree, but for the fact that quiet coaches have of course been removed from CrossCountry and elsewhere; and there is, of course, a persistent strain of superior preachy types on this forum who answer any approving mentions of the quiet coach with "it's PUBLIC transport, I suggest you learn to get on with the public".
I would love to see adult only carriages - it's easy to enforce as only those with adult tickets can enter!
Well said. My kids are loud. Well behaved but loud. Excitable, happy curious boys who are like little sponges sucking up their surroundings, sights, sounds etc. If anyone ever told me to make them keep there Noise down, they would be told. It happened on a bus last week where the big one and the little one were playing peekaboo with each other (my almost 2 year old has a very loud giggle) and some weird and random game that my eldest was playing with my friends children to pass the time. Some man told me "can you not make them
Be quiet?" To which I replied "nope". They were a 9 year old, a 4 year old and a 2 year old enjoying life, sitting in there seats and occupying themselves.
(I think the words grumpy old man got used by a few other passengers more than once!)
Emmery, don't patronise me. I wasn't always on the railways. I spent a long time in public service and dealt, first hand with the effects and after effects of child abuse. It is not a joke. It is dark, depressing and corrosive. It literally ruins lives, sometimes ends lives and it is not a subject that contains any humour what so ever. It is abhorrent, disgusting and just about the worst thing that one human can inflict on another. Making 'jokey', tongue in cheek comments referring to drugging children and infanticide is quite literally unbelievable. Whether they reference a historical/fictional event or are the ramblings of someone who clearly doesn't like children, is irrelevant.
And to be honest, it has no place on a forum dedicated to railway matters.
If you think that this is a subject for humour then it is you, not I that needs their sense of humour receiver checking.
For the sake of further clarity, I will not be replying to any further posts by people who think I have 'had a sense of humour failure'. I've made my position perfectly clear and further debate/argument is leading us down a dead end path.
It's worse in planes. You cannot move most the time. I just wish they put families and children in the rear of the plane next to the flight crew, and that children up to the age of 7 are drugged when they get on board.
and you, of course, are the sole arbiter of what is acceptable I assume.
I take the kids on long train journeys to see the grandparents. Most of the time they are fine (we pack books, games, drinks, treats, IT devices etc) but being children their threshold for boredom and concentration is lower than the perfect adults who inhabit this board. Therefore they will get a bit twisty from time to time especially when tired or excited. They are children after all.
They also tend to ask LOTS of questions, many of which will be terribly banal for the adults in the vicinity, but which are natural considering things are very new when you are 5 or 6 and going on a long train journey is the most exciting thing EVER!!!!!!!!!
BTW - for irrelevant read zero children?
As I have said in other forums here, I get more and more reactionary as I get older. I'm afraid we are victims of the PC Brigade. When I was a youngster I was spoken to harshly, or even had the backs of my legs smacked. Parents now are not allowed to do that, so the rest of us have to suffer because of lazy attitude to parents controlling their pesky kids.
This continues throughout childhood and adolescence. From the baby constantly crying or screaming it's head off for at times, hours on end, and the parents just sit there, no idea that the is a problem with the child. The 3-10 year old, who cannot sit still, got to constantly move about, change position and again the parents do nothing, to the teenagers, shouting down their phones, shouting and swearing all over the place.
I try to confront parents. One child constantly swinging her legs under the table and kicking my shins. I ask the parent to get the child to stop. I get the dirty look. She'll stop when she wants. So I loose my cool. If I'm kicked again by your horrid child, then I'll kick you so hard that it'll take three weeks or more for the bruises to go away. I make sure the whole carriage hears me. Thankfully parent and child move away.
To be honest, I don't see why I should not complain. Constant two way conversations of a mobile phone that can be heard all over the carriage including the swearing is not one I and many others have to put up with. I get the reaction that I can always ask then to stop. Why should I have to ask them to stop! Why am I put in the position that I am disturbed and become annoyed?
I'm afraid the PC Brigade has won. I get up and move now, but again why should I have to?
It's worse in planes. You cannot move most the time. I just wish they put families and children in the rear of the plane next to the flight crew, and that children up to the age of 7 are drugged when they get on board.
King Herod had the right idea! Must be good as it's in the Bible.
I agree. But in this day and age I just have to bear it and not speak out.
What an awful man you are - I take it you don't have children. I'm surprised you haven't suggested banning children altogether. Why should my child be drugged up just to appease people like you!?
And what do you suggest one does with autistic children, those with learning difficulties and those with varying degrees of of ADHD?. Drug them up as well?
Just for clarity and the avoidance of doubt, the "original poster" being referred to is Requeststop who suggested that children be drugged. As the thread starter - usually referred to as the OP - I suggested nothing of the sort!I agree the original poster was OTT...
Never again. Live and let live for goodness sake, it's only a train journey, really how much inconvenience are you being put to, it's not like your neighbours having a noisy party through the wall every night?
I did not read it as 'tongue in cheek'. I found it highly offensive and, to be perfectly honest, disgusting. You have your opinion, I have mine. I find remarks that make child abuse (whether historical, fictional or hypothetical) abhorrent.
Emmery, don't patronise me. I wasn't always on the railways. I spent a long time in public service and dealt, first hand with the effects and after effects of child abuse. It is not a joke. It is dark, depressing and corrosive. It literally ruins lives, sometimes ends lives and it is not a subject that contains any humour what so ever. It is abhorrent, disgusting and just about the worst thing that one human can inflict on another. Making 'jokey', tongue in cheek comments referring to drugging children and infanticide is quite literally unbelievable. Whether they reference a historical/fictional event or are the ramblings of someone who clearly doesn't like children, is irrelevant.
And to be honest, it has no place on a forum dedicated to railway matters.
If you think that this is a subject for humour then it is you, not I that needs their sense of humour receiver checking.
For the sake of further clarity, I will not be replying to any further posts by people who think I have 'had a sense of humour failure'. I've made my position perfectly clear and further debate/argument is leading us down a dead end path.
Jamesb1974
I did not read it as 'tongue in cheek'. I found it highly offensive and, to be perfectly honest, disgusting. You have your opinion, I have mine. I find remarks that make child abuse (whether historical, fictional or hypothetical) abhorrent.
If you did not read it as tongue and cheek then you read it wrong. A joke is not child abuse and you need to calm down and realise that you have had a catastrophic sense of humour failure.
I'm sure we can all agree on one thing.
I need to learn how to quote correctly.
Jamesb1974 your not the only one who has worked in the public sector and I suspect we have had a similar job.
I have not said or even suggested that abuse is a joke and neither has anybody else on this forum. The problem here is that you are equating writing a sentence on an internet forum as a joke in bad taste with what happens out in the real world. The guy was out of order for what he put we all agree on that. But the post needs to be seen for what it was a silly man making an ill judged comment.
I can't actually believe you just wrote if something is historical or fictional is irrelevant. One happened the other is made up its just about the most relevant thing I can think of.
I guess we are never going to agree on this so I'll shut up about it.
Can we get back to talking about trains please?
I agree with most of the other parents who have already posted on here.
For most children, travelling by train is a really exciting treat. I'll be taking my two young boys (8 and 5) from Newcastle to London in October and I'll make sure they have enough to keep them occupied for the duration of the journey. As some of the other patents have mentioned, that will involve things like colouring books, magazines and electronic devices (with headphones) But I'll also talk to them and engage them. I might even make a list of things for them to spot out of the window (The Angel, Penshaw Monument, York Minster etc).
If, one or both of them misbehave (the younger one can be a bit of a tinker!) I'd take immediate action. I'd never let them run around the carriage like the children the OP described. I'd also make sure they were aware of their surroundings and respected the people around them - for example, if I saw someone working on a laptop, I'd tell them both that they mustn't shout out because people are working.
Most parents I've observed on my rail journeys do a pretty good job. Long journeys with children - however you make them - can be tough. As long as they're not doing what the OP described, you've got to have a little tolerance for them. I always love to see children enjoying a journey on the train.
As I have said in other forums here, I get more and more reactionary as I get older. I'm afraid we are victims of the PC Brigade. When I was a youngster I was spoken to harshly, or even had the backs of my legs smacked. Parents now are not allowed to do that, so the rest of us have to suffer because of lazy attitude to parents controlling their pesky kids.
This continues throughout childhood and adolescence. From the baby constantly crying or screaming it's head off for at times, hours on end, and the parents just sit there, no idea that the is a problem with the child. The 3-10 year old, who cannot sit still, got to constantly move about, change position and again the parents do nothing, to the teenagers, shouting down their phones, shouting and swearing all over the place.
I try to confront parents. One child constantly swinging her legs under the table and kicking my shins. I ask the parent to get the child to stop. I get the dirty look. She'll stop when she wants. So I loose my cool. If I'm kicked again by your horrid child, then I'll kick you so hard that it'll take three weeks or more for the bruises to go away. I make sure the whole carriage hears me. Thankfully parent and child move away.
To be honest, I don't see why I should not complain. Constant two way conversations of a mobile phone that can be heard all over the carriage including the swearing is not one I and many others have to put up with. I get the reaction that I can always ask then to stop. Why should I have to ask them to stop! Why am I put in the position that I am disturbed and become annoyed?
I'm afraid the PC Brigade has won. I get up and move now, but again why should I have to?
It's worse in planes. You cannot move most the time. I just wish they put families and children in the rear of the plane next to the flight crew, and that children up to the age of 7 are drugged when they get on board.
King Herod had the right idea! Must be good as it's in the Bible.
It's not the first time Requeststop has posted crap like this. I seem to remember back around c.2012 there was a post of a similar nature. I have a feeling that he's just talking out his arse and that he doesn't really try and act the 'big man' he is. Unless, that is, what he says is true, then what a spiteful human being. Something must have gone wrong somewhere.