I know that I have posted on here about this before but have struggled to interpret some responses, as I tend to prefer objectivity.
I therefore just thought threat I would create one last thread on this, asking posters to vote objectively (no explanation), so I will get a more objective response that I can understand.
The question is:
'Do you think that these people aren't my friends?'
The potential responses are:
1/ Person 1 is my friend but Person 2 isn't.
2/ Person 2 is my friend but Person 1 isn't.
3/ Both of these people are my friends.
4/ Neither of these people are my friends.
Thank you very much for helping me gain an objective understanding on this.
The information is:
I recently got some messages on social media from some people who I knew from a few years ago. I have Aspergers and struggle a lot to interpret messages like thie because of the effects of this on me I also tend to overanalyse messages and most of the time reach the wrong conclusions.
Please can I have some advise as to whether you think these people are my friends or not?
The first message from Person 1 said:
'First of all you need to chill. You are not a retard. The dictionary definition does not apply to you because you are social and you know how to interact with people. Only you can change your loneliness. Throw caution to the wind. Join a club/society. Ignore those who insult you - you have dealt with worse at school. If you think you have no friends then you are wrong. Look up the definition of friend in a dictionary and apply it to people you know. It's not all about uni work. You need to put yourself out there and friends will come your way.'
I think that the 'You need to put yourself out there and friends will come your way' suggests that this person doesn't consider me as a friend as 'friends will come your way' implies that they think that I have none, including them.
and the second message from Person 2 said: 'Just because you don't always talk to friends doesn't mean they aren't always there for you. Also, please never assume a person doesn't care about you just because they haven't told you so... I hope today has made you realise how many friends you have '.
I haven't saw either of these people for quite a long time now, although the messages are both fairly recent. I have them both on Facebook and we are in touch quite infrequently. Do you think that the people who sent me these messages are my friends? In particular, what is the significance of the ellipsis in the second message? Also, in the first message, I haven't saw this person for a few years now, so how can they so confidently say 'if you think you have no friends then you are wrong'?