You a victim, as you put it, because its emotive crap. How on earth can you come onto an enthusiasts forum and say, well, there's nothing really interesting about railways, I have trouble thinking. Sorry, you asked for it. What do you want us to do, all agree, and log off? So other people don't find trains thrilling, big deal. I don't find championship knitting thrilling. There are people here that will find one form of public transport (say a bus or plane) more exciting than a train, and vice versa. there will be people that think modern is better than steam. Whatever floats your boat, and they'll be a few people that like those better to!
I never said there was nothing interesting about railways. I merely said I found it harder to explain my interest in railways to other people than I do other things. It is fundamentally an interest that is seen as being a bit on the dull and sad side (whether we like it or not) and telling people about it is generally more difficult than telling them about something else.
The point is, that's YOUR view, and you cannot put it in a killer sentence and expect everyone to agree.....
I don't expect everyone to agree! As for MY view, is that not what the OP asked for? As someone who has a bit of experience here, I thought MY view would be just as valid and thought provoking as everyone elses. Personally, I make sure I know someone quite well before they find out about some of my interests that might be seen as more 'quirky' such as the railway.
But you are right, if you want to persuade someone (especially females) about something they are fundamentally not interested in, you will probably fail.
Exactly - everything my initial post was saying.
And I wasn't suggesting you do that, I was objecting to what you wrote. But, the answer is don't 'go on about it',
Firstly, how can you object to me giving the OP my opinion when it is based on the fact that the subject can be difficult to talk about - especially when it comes to dealing with relationships. Secondly, you will find that my previous post said exactly that "do not let interest get in the way of the relationship" "not droning on about history" etc.
if they don't accept who you are may I suggest they have mental problems with accepting other people are not the same as them, and to be honest I wouldn't want to know someone like that.
This is among the most ridiculous statements I have ever read. Most people I know are not the same as me nor are they interested in all the things I am. A lot of them take the mick when it comes to certain aspects of life. At one point, I became the manager of some of my friends and they made life so difficult at times, but we are all still friends. I didn't suddenly think "my god, I don't want to know these people anymore". If you don't get on with someone fundamentally, then they won't become your friend - it is a fact of life. What I am saying is it is much easier to initially form a relationship based on things that you agree on rather than not agreeing on. People not accepting who you are is not a mental problem! It is a fact of life!
Shocking as it may seem, ladies generally aren't interested in mechanical objects. It's nice if they are, but the question is phrased as men should fit in with shopping, shoes, dress making, hairdressing and handbags to please them.
Again, something I have touched on previously. If you have an interest that you like to spend time on and want to have that time, it is not unreasonable to do likewise the other way. The frankly borderline sexist remarks you make here are all examples of normal human behaviour - activities that human beings take part in all the time. I don't do shoes myself and do not see the appeal but I do football. As an extension to this, my last girlfriend had a stamp collection. I only found out about it when I was talking about my father's stamp collection. Suddenly she piped up. In the whole give and take philosophy, she went with me to the odd train fair and I went with her to the odd stamp fair. I even passed up the opportunity of seeing the Monegasque Royal car collection so she could go to a stamp museum instead.
Get a grip and don't be so bloody sensitive, people are not quite a bothered about your interests as you think, unless its child porn or badger baiting.
Let me tell you something, Metroland. Whilst you may not give a rat's ass about what I am interested in, people I know are. Some of them accept them, some of them ridicule them. The OP's friend wants to know how to handle the subject with his girlfriend without being subject to excess ridicule whilst perhaps realising that she may find it a bit 'quirky'. To ensure that this does not affect a realtionship, I ensure that quirkiness only comes at a time when the other person has had enough time to get to know you well enough.
My 'sensitivity' in this thread has come from your attempt to ridicule what I said in my initial post, despite it just being an opionion that was asked for. If I can have my opinions questioned by you, then is it not possible that the OP's friend could be questioned also?
Just for the record, I would have more of a problem with child porn than badger baiting - I don't think the two rank similarly along my scale of abhorrent acts!
Finally, this is not an attack, I just get irritated with enthusiasts that try to prove being interested in apples is better than oranges.
At no point did I do any of that. I gave my informed opinion. You asked what the difference was between Trains/Bikes/Boates/Planes etc. Me123 showed you what the difference was - perception. My Capri owners club statement attempted to redress that balance slightly but, realistically, that is how it will always be seen.
