I gave up using the railway system years ago. Despite all of the advertising hype there isn't any customer service, it's ridiculously overpriced, unreliable due to no resilience whatsoever, the ticketing is byzantine in complication and if you misunderstand one of the rules you are criminalised.
As someone who is relatively accustomed to using rail, or at least was in the 90s and early 00s. The over complication of ticketing is a massive put off. The fact you can be criminalised for making a genuine mistake is doubly so.
When you look at how complex it is with specific tickets for specific services, certain operator only tickets, then you have routing, what's acceptable and what's not, peak and off peak, what's peak and what's not.
One of the appeals of rail for me is the turn up and go nature. But it seems that rail wants to go all airline on us and have us pre book. The inflexibility then brings more turn off when compared to it being the private motorcars ultimate trump card.
This weekend I travelled from Home to York, I had for reasons of nostalgia wanted to travel via Doncaster and booked Manchester to York via Doncaster. Return Tickets for specified trains came in at about £43 for 1 adult and 1 child. However open returns came in at £31 but were hidden at the bottom of the resellers site.
When booking this open return i had to choose my outbound train, it was unclear if the ticket was specific to this train.
Before buying I checked the Bus was running, I checked the trains were running in view of the weather. I however missed checking the Metrolink was operating. Having got the bus I then found the Metrolink was a bus replacement, but I had to trek to the Metrolink platforms and back to get tickets, with small child and luggage. Once on the bus I realised it went to all the Metrolink stops and it would have been quicker and cheaper to get the standard bus. I had asked about this but the metrolink staff shrugged their shoulders and said were not the bus people.
Arriving late for the chosen train I was concerned my ticket would now not be accepted on another service and because the delay was a metrolink delay not a rail delay of they'd honour it. I asked the gate line and they just nodded and said it'd be fine (still none the wiser as to if I could use it on any train or if it was a specific train that was honoured).
The next train was cancelled 8mins before it was due to leave with people stood on the platform. I asked if my via Doncaster ticket was acceptable on the York via Leeds train, again I was given a non committal nod and I was able to get that train.
Fortunately we turned it into an adventure but my little lad did get upset thinking we'd never get going. It just added stress! I am fine with it, but my partner, if she was with .s would have been very stressed and annoyed. She doesn't get or even expect ticketing restrictions and just expects to be able to jump on any train from A - B
Then chuck in complications from delays and cancellations and she'll just take the car.
And I suppose that's the nub, a simple regional or inter-regional 2 hour journey shouldn't be an adventure.
On the way home I was sat with a bunch of blokes who had been on a sensible pub crawl in Sheffield. They spent a good 20mins plotting how to get to their respective home around the GM suburbs from Stockport and Manchester owing to cancellations and disruption. I think that's the real turn off. I think we sometimes forget it's easier for us types with a rail background or interest than it is for the likes of my Mrs who has no idea and just expects to get places.
Price is of course another issue, sometimes rail can be really cheap, other times it can be insanely expensive, especially when you consider other aspects.
I'm not sure that rail has got any more or less unreliable, but now, with fuller days, work, children and responsibilities I am more wary of possible rail disruption to the point a couple of my regular trips to Preston and Penrith are now mostly by car. And so it seems others are more wary too.
But, I suppose, what does rail care, all trains I was on were probably 80%-95% full and there is talk of prices being raised to curtail demand.