That sounds unspeakably awful for everyone involved. I can't help thinking that these kind of "bad eggs", such as these two terrible young men, are a minority in society which may never be eliminated. Perhaps, as a society, we should instead move to isolate and stigmatize this kind of behaviour as you and the other man on the bus did? For example, those with extreme right-wing, nationalist views are pretty much excluded from any kind of discussions or decision making in modern Britain. Maybe we should do the same with these awful sexist beliefs?
Gosh, two bad eggs, who sat next to a woman and harassed her.
It's good to see you finally saw a sexist thing, although you missed numerous glaring earlier posts.
For the avoidance of doubt, people who simultaneously dogwhistle that a) women and men are slaves to their biology, ooh isn't that awful, and b) suggest that all men deserve an equal chance of satisfying their sexual urges towards women, and also c) suggest that women need to compromise with men to ensure their safety ....are sexist and misogynist.
Two big issues here.
Firstly, the biological argument, which holds a little water (because it is at least true in essence and forms the basis of sex separation). Men do have certain privileges over women in the society in which we live. While we shouldn't infantilise women, we should recognise that women are overwhelmingly more vulnerable to male sexual violence, sexual harassment and unwanted attention. Men should speak up for women where it is necessary - and for those who don't think men should, and women can manage quite alright on their own - have a look at Clapham Common, where the demonstrators were women, were of almost no threat whatsoever to the police, and still got manhandled in a way that simply didn't happen at the BLM, "football lads" counters, or anti-lockdown protests where there were lots of men.
Men have biological urges, certainly. But the argument that these urges are natural holds no water at all. We live in a modern society and are not Neanderthals; people are expected to be able to control and master their urges. Lots of things for which there are natural urges, and which occur perfectly naturally in the human species are completely illegal and have been for a long time, such as murder. In any case, most sexual violence doesn't happen because the victim looked good, or sexy, or attractive, but simply because they are women and the perpetrator simply wished to exercise dominance and control over her.
The final nail in the coffin of the biological argument is around sexual proclivity. Increasingly, with sexual liberation, women have had a freer choice of male sexual partners. There's quite a lot of sex going on, but as women now aren't tied down into early relationships or marriages, increasingly they're having sex with a smaller pool of successful, attractive men with characteristics they desire. About a third of men, under 30 reported having no sex at all in 2018; that's tripled in the last ten years. Undoubtedly, many of the posters here will fit into that category. However, only 18% of women reported no sex in 2018, and their rate has remained relatively steady. As a cohort, young men are now subject exactly to the same sort of selection by biological process which was previously argued justified or explained harassment of women by men. Hence, it is not coherent to argue "uhh biology", because if you argue men should, or can, press women for attention because of their urges you must also argue for women's rights to firmly say No and to give her attention to partners she finds attractive. And, if you are one of those men who are not deemed to be attractive, successful, or biologically desirable, I'm afraid you won't get much sex or fulfilment. We must therefore discard biology as some sort of excuse and we can never ever suggest that all men deserve the chance to be sexually fulfilled by women.
The other argument is around the compromises being sought from women. I'm not entirely sure what sort of compromises it's being suggested they should make (not go out at night? have a chaperone? never open unwanted DMs? dress "modestly"?), but if it was any other group of people, like Jews, black people, or gay people, we would find it horrific to suggest those groups should make compromises on how they live their life to avoid violence, unwanted attention and harassment from other groups. A good acid test for any sort of position men take towards women and women's rights is to avoid homogenising women and think about whether you'd like your own mother to be subject to the treatment you're about to excuse. I really don't think my mother does need to make any compromises with "men" to ensure her safety at night or her freedom from harassment.
Finally, it has been dispiriting to see several posters claiming to have similar experiences to women simply because they're physically smaller. I can assure you that you need to listen to a lot more women and hear their experiences, and have a better understanding of how they are at a risk of a much different kind of threat to you.
In summary:
1) Biological urges never justify harassment
2) Women aren't vessels for male gratification
3) Women shouldn't need to compromise to ensure their safety
4) Men's experiences can never equate to women's experiences
5) Women are people who experience specific problems to which men have the greatest part of the solution
It is difficult to be a man. For sure, there has been an enormous change in how relationships are carried out between men and women in the digital age. And, it has not been advantageous to men, many of whom have been slow to adapt to what women actually want. But, the modification of behaviour needs to start with men - that's us - and our attitudes, instead of continuously exporting our own difficulties onto women for them to sort. We can start by calling out things which are clearly unfair and sexist, instead of pretending we didn't see them.
Finally, it may be worth reflecting on why none of our women members have posted, except one (whose post was removed because it contained a trigger word) who only popped onto the thread to say how awful some of the attitudes were.