That isn't a valid comparison, because fandom in football and music are very different.
Who gets to decide that someone can't attend a big football match, on the basis they are undeserving? Do you have a list of events which need to be dismissed as not worthy of attendance by non-regulars, and what criteria you use to decide this?
There are probably more people who watch most of Southend's football matches, than people who watch most of Taylor Swift's concerts.
But who are any of us to decide someone can't attend an event on that basis?
On the other hand, there are a lot more people who watch Taylor Swift once per tour than there are Southend bandwagon jumpers who ignore the team for 20 years but still expect to get a ticket for a big final.
Aren't Taylor Swift fans bandwagon jumpers? Who gets to decide which events need to be exclusively attended by regular attendees and which events can be attended by anyone?
How would you enforce this, and would you exclude the children, parents, siblings and other relatives of season ticket holders?
I've taken about 50 young people to watch football matches this season; as their parents don't regularly take them, do they count as being bandwagon jumpers in your opinion?
I would be interested to hear your definition of a bandwagon jumper; however I suspect you won't provide one
Music fans don't have the misplaced sense of entitlement that because they went in 2005 they should be able to go now.
How do you define sense of entitlement, how do you measure it, how do you determine if it's misplaced or not?
You are keen to point out differences where it suits your agenda, but not where it doesn't; it's reasonable for someone from Southend to expect to be able to attend a Wembley final, given the capacity and that relatively few neutral fans are going to want tickets.
There obviously isn't the same expectation for a Taylor Swift concert, which has a broader geographic appeal.
Taylor Swift fans know that demand is going to exceed supply. Similar examples are the annual ruck for tickets for Glastonbury or the dynamic pricing of the Oasis reunion.
But you can't pick and choose like that, you can't use this as justification for denying supporters tickets and then admit that the exceptions are obviously going to be different. Which is it?
Oasis fans don't expect to get a ticket for the reunion just because they saw them in the upstairs room of a pub 30 years ago.
This is a straw man argument.
It's absolutely reasonable for people to have an expectation to see their local team play at Wembley in the circumstances described in this thread.
The only reason why people are being denied is because the people who chose this date did so on the basis of that at least one of the small clubs like Forest Green, Solihull Moors etc reaching the final.
However it was entirely foreseeable that big clubs such as Oldham and Southend would reach the final and that they would take huge numbers.
I had a look at the Wembley stadium event list and identified several weekends where it looks like they could have planned to do the work instead.