I'll have to expand, even though it's the main reason I completely avoided the thread in the first place and I didn't want to go there, i've even had second and third thoughts about posting this. Having read the thread again though, there seems to be a complete lack of understanding from some who have contributed to the thread and I suspect along with others that these people have no experience whatsoever yet can't help themselves but reply to a thread about something they cannot even begin to comprehend.
Around six years ago we came very close. We found out she was pregant with what would be our third child, it was completely unplanned. Although finance was an issue, it's really hard to look back and understand the reasons we were making for not having the child. At her insistence, I was fully involved at every step although I really just wanted to make her own decision, looking back I seem enormously selfish. We only got as far one initial appointment with the GP where the discussion really brought it home, we couldn't do it and it's the best thing we could ever have done.
He's five now and whenever this discussion appears in the media, or here in this case, it comes back. People often talk about the regret after doing it, or people only think that the emotion really comes if you go through with it, it goes both ways. I feel regret that we even thought about doing it, at times I feel like a really bad person, especially when I look at him and think we might have taken it all away. God only knows how she feels, it's not a discussion I want to have at this moment, if ever.
After he was born I went and had the non scalpel procedure, there was no way on earth I was going to even offer up the risk of it happening again, accidents do happen.