I understand your position and sympathise. A lot of people on this forum can't seem to grasp that most 'ordinary' people have no expertise or even interest in their rail journey other than as a means of getting from A to B as conveniently and,perhaps to a lesser extent, cheaply as possible. It was unfortunate that you had no means to pay when challenged, but I've been in a situation myself in a strange city and a cash machine eating my card of barely having enough money to get home. Being poor is not yet a crime, but if any country were to introduce such a policy, we'd be up there with Russia. Today's i newspaper has a story headlined 'How Britain became the go-to destination for the world's money launderers' involving just on plot and £12.5 million which because of 'lax U.K. corporate law' the true destination of hasn't been determined, and probably never will be. But, hey, we can pick on you , vilify you and give you a criminal record instead and pat ourselves on the back for a good job done.
I think that criticism is way OTT and quite unfair, and in any case I don't see what your rant in the second part has anything to do with the matter in hand anyway.
I am sure we all have sympathy for the OP if this were a genuine mistake. The amount of sympathy shown through the replies will, unfortunately, depend on the style of her posts and the tone of her posts. That is only natural. There are plenty of issues involved in a matter like this and there are priorities. The way I read it, the OP's posts contain very little remorse and regret for her mistake, intentional or otherwise, but plenty of finger-pointing and trying to apportion blames to others. (Maybe she didn't mean for it to come across like that, but that is certainly how I read it. I am sure I am alone.) Of course these claims will be countered because it is important that she genuinely understands the gravity of the situation and where relevant legislation stands. This sometimes will involve being told bluntly that she must accept responsibility and, therefore, take a more reconciliatory tone with whoever she is dealing with.
No one is lynching the OP for her mistake. As I can see, people were only trying to counter her invalid excuses and claims. If she takes the same attitude with the train company then I can see this end very badly, and that is what none of us want to see.
The law sucks when you make a mistake on the railways and get caught. There is no denying that, so there is no point agreeing with someone's incorrect claims and offering them comfort because the train company will not.
We all like to be told that what we think is right, and justifications in our own head for our behaviours are reasonable and valid, but that is not always the case. If the OP does not think that our advice (which AFAIK is broadly correct and appropriate so far) is good enough for her then it is her choice as to whether she wants to take it onboard. I cannot force her to accept it, or Clip, or 455driver, or anyone else for that matter.
Helping someone does not always mean telling them exactly what to do next and what will happen, because that may not always be clear because the train company pulls all the strings and the passenger can only wait and respond passively as the best course of action. Helping someone does mean sometimes countering their claims and helping them understand why she ended up in the situation she found herself in and why some of the ideas in her head are plainly wrong and unhelpful. Disagreeing with someone seeking help is not criminalising them nor accusing them of anything. It is helping them understand where they stand in the whole episode thereby allowing them to make a more informed decision on what course of action to take next.