***Hi - I have edited my first post on this thread since it was merged so that the voting can be seen first***
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I know that I have posted on here about this before but have struggled to interpret some responses, as I tend to prefer objectivity.
I therefore just thought threat I would create one last thread on this, asking posters to vote objectively (no explanation), so I will get a more objective response that I can understand.
The question is:
'Do you think that these people aren't my friends?'
The potential responses are:
1/ Person 1 is my friend but Person 2 isn't.
2/ Person 2 is my friend but Person 1 isn't.
3/ Both of these people are my friends.
4/ Neither of these people are my friends.
Thank you very much for helping me gain an objective understanding on this.
The information is:
I recently got some messages on social media from some people who I knew from a few years ago. I have Aspergers and struggle a lot to interpret messages like thie because of the effects of this on me I also tend to overanalyse messages and most of the time reach the wrong conclusions.
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I have just been thinking about a message I received a few nights ago...
I was feeling pretty down a few nights ago, and posted some stupid messages to some of the contacts on my Facebook page, as I had so much work to do and was a bit stressed out/lonely. I posted stuff saying that I feel lonely and I have no friends, as I am so stressed with Uni work.
One person got back to me and he said 'If you think you have no friends then you are wrong. Look up the definition of friend in a dictionary and apply it to people you know'.
I didn't know how to feel - one one hand, it just makes me feel that no one understands the amount of pressure that can build up with essays. On the other - I feel bad, as I am thinking what if he thought I was his friend, but because I was upset and told him I have no friends (because I was feeling lonely), he may hate me now.
Under what context would you say to someone (after they have said to you 'I have no friends') 'if you think you have no friends then you are wrong...'?
------Here is my post/question below - please vote on it -----__
I know that I have posted on here about this before but have struggled to interpret some responses, as I tend to prefer objectivity.
I therefore just thought threat I would create one last thread on this, asking posters to vote objectively (no explanation), so I will get a more objective response that I can understand.
The question is:
'Do you think that these people aren't my friends?'
The potential responses are:
1/ Person 1 is my friend but Person 2 isn't.
2/ Person 2 is my friend but Person 1 isn't.
3/ Both of these people are my friends.
4/ Neither of these people are my friends.
Thank you very much for helping me gain an objective understanding on this.
The information is:
I recently got some messages on social media from some people who I knew from a few years ago. I have Aspergers and struggle a lot to interpret messages like thie because of the effects of this on me I also tend to overanalyse messages and most of the time reach the wrong conclusions.
Please can I have some advise as to whether you think these people are my friends or not?
The first message from Person 1 said:
'First of all you need to chill. You are not a retard. The dictionary definition does not apply to you because you are social and you know how to interact with people. Only you can change your loneliness. Throw caution to the wind. Join a club/society. Ignore those who insult you - you have dealt with worse at school. If you think you have no friends then you are wrong. Look up the definition of friend in a dictionary and apply it to people you know. It's not all about uni work. You need to put yourself out there and friends will come your way.'
I think that the 'You need to put yourself out there and friends will come your way' suggests that this person doesn't consider me as a friend as 'friends will come your way' implies that they think that I have none, including them.
and the second message from Person 2 said: 'Just because you don't always talk to friends doesn't mean they aren't always there for you. Also, please never assume a person doesn't care about you just because they haven't told you so... I hope today has made you realise how many friends you have '.
I haven't saw either of these people for quite a long time now, although the messages are both fairly recent. I have them both on Facebook and we are in touch quite infrequently. Do you think that the people who sent me these messages are my friends? In particular, what is the significance of the ellipsis in the second message? Also, in the first message, I haven't saw this person for a few years now, so how can they so confidently say 'if you think you have no friends then you are wrong'?
----- Below is what was originally the first post, but is less relevant now because I feel objective voting (as above) is more helpful --------------
I have just been thinking about a message I received a few nights ago...
I was feeling pretty down a few nights ago, and posted some stupid messages to some of the contacts on my Facebook page, as I had so much work to do and was a bit stressed out/lonely. I posted stuff saying that I feel lonely and I have no friends, as I am so stressed with Uni work.
One person got back to me and he said 'If you think you have no friends then you are wrong. Look up the definition of friend in a dictionary and apply it to people you know'.
I didn't know how to feel - one one hand, it just makes me feel that no one understands the amount of pressure that can build up with essays. On the other - I feel bad, as I am thinking what if he thought I was his friend, but because I was upset and told him I have no friends (because I was feeling lonely), he may hate me now.
Under what context would you say to someone (after they have said to you 'I have no friends') 'if you think you have no friends then you are wrong...'?
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